I Will Compromise

I will compromise. 

There, I said it. Am I weak now? Am I not committed to fighting for what I believe? Am I a traitor? This is the attitude we seem to have adopted in this country. I couldn’t disagree more.

It’s easy to not compromise. Refusing to compromise doesn’t make you a hero, it makes you part of the problem. You want to shut down the government because you didn’t get your way? That’s called a temper tantrum and it is the behavior of a petulant child, not a patriot.

Compromise is difficult, but necessary if we don’t want to continue suffering The Anti-Pendulum Effect. We need a new end game that values the sustainable happiness that comes from reasonable compromise over temporary victories that makes us happy but the other half of the country miserable.

We need statesmen and stateswomen who will fight for what they believe while understanding compromise is necessary, even though it may be disagreeable to their supporters. We need congressional leadership that sees it as their primary job to facilitate compromise, rather than to pass their extreme agenda or obstruct their opponents. Finding reasonable compromise should be the primary goal of our legislative debate. Most importantly, we need reasonable voters who won’t abandon leaders who compromise. In fact, we need voters who actively reject those that run on a platform of non-compromise and obstructionism.

How do we compromise? In a word, love. Among my family and friends, there are people on the “other side” who I love and respect. We have absolutely no problem getting along. I very strongly disagree with some of them but I never stop loving them. That love, and the understanding that they are good and reasonable people, makes me realize I may not always be 100% right. I believe the majority of people in this country feel the same way.

When anger starts brewing, think of that family or friend from the other side. If you don’t hate your family or friends over these disagreements how do you justify hating someone else’s family and friends? Why not give them the benefit of the doubt and get to the reasonably founded roots of disagreement? We are all brothers and sisters and we’re in this together. Our happiness is interdependent. If you agree to disagree and feel it wise to compromise, say it with me now…

I will compromise.